Thank you so much for your interest in my writing work and my 2010 book, Live a Life You Love: 7 Steps to a Healthier, Happier, More Passionate You. I was so passionate about the messages in the book when I wrote it (“experience more happiness”, “live your dreams” etc.), but time and experience have shaped me since, such that I no longer believe that those are the primary ingredients for a meaningful, well-lived life.
I am Christian, and was when I wrote the book. I am so grateful for what I have learned in the years since. I believe now that a truly meaningful life that matters isn’t one that is focused on the self. It’s not about relentless self-actualization, though there’s nothing wrong with developing one’s talents and abilities and working/living with excellence (within certain healthy boundaries).
Even though our society might try to tell us otherwise, life’s not really about being the biggest or the best. Big isn’t necessarily better, and a focus on striving for more (particularly as a lifelong attitude) can be a grievous error.
Dreaming isn’t necessarily wrong; it depends on the type of dream, really, and the true motivations behind it. Dreams do come true…that can be a good thing, or perhaps as often it might be a “be careful what you wish for” experience. Regardless, I’ve come to appreciate that one’s dreams shouldn’t be the focus of life, especially to the exclusion of other more important things such as loving the people in our lives.
As a culture, we need to stop focusing so much on advancing and fulfilling ourselves, and focusing instead on serving and helping others. When I wrote the book, I wasn’t aware that I was contributing to this cultural mindset. I regret that very much now.
Finally, mental health is very important, and it’s important to understand which lifestyle choices and habits promote well-being and health. Focusing myopically on our individual happiness, however, is not the point. Some of the most important lessons in life (and ultimately joy) come out of suffering, a point that shouldn’t be missed.
For these reasons, I am no longer promoting this book on this website or in my work in general. If I have the opportunity to update it and incorporate these new perspectives, you may see it back in this space. In the meantime, I suggest you check out the Bible…there is so much more wisdom there than in any book or books I could ever write!