People toss around the word “burnout” a lot these days. Every time I speak about burnout to a group or at a conference, people come up to me wide-eyed afterward, saying, “This is what’s wrong with me! I just thought I was exhausted and stressed.” It’s my experience that many people walk around with clear symptoms …Continue Reading »
Conscientiousness increases your chances of success, but can leave you stressed and at risk of burnout.
“When your conscientiousness impels you to take on more than you can handle … you risk your physical health.” –Susan Cain
Conscientiousness is Both a Strength and a Weakness
If you’re a conscientious person, you are “wishing to do what is right, especially to …Continue Reading »
Communication skills are the key to successful, healthy relationships. Do you find it hard to speak up for yourself? Are you afraid of what might happen if you say how you really feel?
If you spent a lot of your life around unsafe people, at some point you probably decided that it’s better to stay silent …Continue Reading »
Do you tend to be fearful or suffer from anxiety? It’s really important to know this about yourself, and deal with it appropriately.
Fear and anxiety are like kidnappers that hold you captive. They hold you back from the full, free life you could be living. The stranglehold on your life will typically get worse over time, if left unchecked.
The …Continue Reading »
We won’t be distracted by comparison if we are captivated by purpose. – Bob Goff.
In this era of social media, where everyone’s carefully curated lives are so relentlessly on display, comparison can drive you insane.
At the very least, it will probably make you unnaturally depressed and unsatisfied with your life (there’s plenty of scientific data to …Continue Reading »
Ah, difficult people. Have you ever felt really frustrated or annoyed with someone’s behavior, maybe even deciding to dislike or shun them, only to find out afterwards that there was a good reason for them to be having an “off” day?
Have you been that rude or snappy person, yourself? I know I have.
Be kind, for …Continue Reading »
Who are the people you frequently compare yourself to?
If you’re not sure, try asking yourself this: Who have you compared yourself to in the last 24 hours?
It might help to think of the last time you checked your Facebook or Instagram feed. Did any updates from other people make you feel envious, or make you feel as if your …Continue Reading »
Do you feel overwhelmed by life, feeling that as the days go by you’re being asked to do more and more, while you’re getting less and less done? Do you find yourself saying yes constantly, when what you really need to do is say no?
Is your family frustrated with you?
Do you feel like you never …Continue Reading »
What did you do before, that you really enjoyed, that you simply don’t do anymore?
When you think about certain things (or one certain thing) you used to do, or talk about these activities in the past tense to others, do you feel a twinge of regret?
When that regret passes across your consciousness, do you shove …Continue Reading »
What do you normally do when you have a bad day?
Do you react by overeating, drinking alcohol, or making other choices that temporarily help you cope, things that you’ll regret later?
A few days ago, someone called me with some bad news first thing in the morning. In the big picture of life what happened wasn’t really a …Continue Reading »