We won’t be distracted by comparison if we are captivated by purpose. – Bob Goff.
In this era of social media, where everyone’s carefully curated lives are so relentlessly on display, comparison can drive you insane.
At the very least, it will probably make you unnaturally depressed and unsatisfied with your life (there’s plenty of scientific data to …Continue Reading »
Who are the people you frequently compare yourself to?
If you’re not sure, try asking yourself this: Who have you compared yourself to in the last 24 hours?
It might help to think of the last time you checked your Facebook or Instagram feed. Did any updates from other people make you feel envious, or make you feel as if your …Continue Reading »
I’ve been anxious since I was a kid. I didn’t like being separated from my mom, worried if she was late picking me up from somewhere, and stressed out about the monsters under the bed. As an adult, other than my specific fears of heights and tiny cramped spaces, I tend to be more of …Continue Reading »
What did you do before, that you really enjoyed, that you simply don’t do anymore?
When you think about certain things (or one certain thing) you used to do, or talk about these activities in the past tense to others, do you feel a twinge of regret?
When that regret passes across your consciousness, do you shove …Continue Reading »
What do you normally do when you have a bad day?
Do you react by overeating, drinking alcohol, or making other choices that temporarily help you cope, things that you’ll regret later?
A few days ago, someone called me with some bad news first thing in the morning. In the big picture of life what happened wasn’t really a …Continue Reading »
Whenever I work with a client, the deep work of coaching starts when I help her navigate the unexpected “swamp” into which she inevitably stumbles.
What seemed clear, possible and wonderful when first envisioned becomes foggy and hazy in the distance, perhaps even impossibly far away.
Had she imagined it?
Who was she to think she could deserve …Continue Reading »
Do you allow the most exhausted, tired, fed up version of yourself to make key day-to-day choices about how you live your life?
I did—for a long time.
What happens when you live that way is you end up feeling a lot better—in the moment. Over many, many different moments. This is natural and normal. It’s so very human …Continue Reading »
The other day I was talking to a coaching client about her work situation. People at her workplace were leaving in droves because of terrible conditions, excessive workloads, and a general lack of concern for employee well-being. She was beginning to find herself unable to cope with the stress, so she hired me to help …Continue Reading »
How do you feel about the way you appear within the context of your life? Are you truly yourself? Do you feel that you can be you, no matter the social situation you’re in?
If you regularly feel that you can’t just relax and be yourself, you’re probably sick and tired of it.
…Continue Reading »
Do you have a friend who can always be counted on to recommend amazing books? I do, and she even created a cool private Facebook book club where a group of us who live miles apart can compare notes on whatever book we are reading. Her latest recommendation is Grace for the Good Girl: Letting …Continue Reading »