Stress brings out the worst. Not just the worst behavior (such as being more irritable with others), but also the worst choices.
If I’m stressed, my first response is to reach for comfort food. Cookies, cake or chocolate, and the more, the better. This soothes in the moment, but I always regret it after the food …Continue Reading »
Do you frequently feel resentment about your life or your circumstances? Perhaps there is someone who frequently takes advantage of you. It leaves you seething each time, but you feel helpless to do anything about it.
Or maybe, like me, you’re not very good at speaking up about things that need to change. Too often, I …Continue Reading »
Conscientiousness increases your chances of success, but can leave you stressed and at risk of burnout.
“When your conscientiousness impels you to take on more than you can handle … you risk your physical health.” –Susan Cain
Conscientiousness is Both a Strength and a Weakness
If you’re a conscientious person, you are “wishing to do what is right, especially to …Continue Reading »
Do you tend to be fearful or suffer from anxiety? It’s really important to know this about yourself, and deal with it appropriately.
Fear and anxiety are like kidnappers that hold you captive. They hold you back from the full, free life you could be living. The stranglehold on your life will typically get worse over time, if left unchecked.
The …Continue Reading »
We won’t be distracted by comparison if we are captivated by purpose. – Bob Goff.
In this era of social media, where everyone’s carefully curated lives are so relentlessly on display, comparison can drive you insane.
At the very least, it will probably make you unnaturally depressed and unsatisfied with your life (there’s plenty of scientific data to …Continue Reading »
Who are the people you frequently compare yourself to?
If you’re not sure, try asking yourself this: Who have you compared yourself to in the last 24 hours?
It might help to think of the last time you checked your Facebook or Instagram feed. Did any updates from other people make you feel envious, or make you feel as if your …Continue Reading »
I’ve been anxious since I was a kid. I didn’t like being separated from my mom, worried if she was late picking me up from somewhere, and stressed out about the monsters under the bed. As an adult, other than my specific fears of heights and tiny cramped spaces, I tend to be more of …Continue Reading »
What did you do before, that you really enjoyed, that you simply don’t do anymore?
When you think about certain things (or one certain thing) you used to do, or talk about these activities in the past tense to others, do you feel a twinge of regret?
When that regret passes across your consciousness, do you shove …Continue Reading »
What do you normally do when you have a bad day?
Do you react by overeating, drinking alcohol, or making other choices that temporarily help you cope, things that you’ll regret later?
A few days ago, someone called me with some bad news first thing in the morning. In the big picture of life what happened wasn’t really a …Continue Reading »
Whenever I work with a client, the deep work of coaching starts when I help her navigate the unexpected “swamp” into which she inevitably stumbles.
What seemed clear, possible and wonderful when first envisioned becomes foggy and hazy in the distance, perhaps even impossibly far away.
Had she imagined it?
Who was she to think she could deserve …Continue Reading »