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Another amazing article Susan. Everything really is a decision…to not stress, to be happy. What if we decided that everything was just all right the way it was, life would be so much more joyful.
Can’t wait to hear more of your great insights at your upcoming event. 🙂
Thank you and I am so thrilled to see you on the list for the retreat, will be wonderful to have you there!
Awesome article. As I have a big event coming up in a week, I am going try my best to try to have fun and not let myself get tied up in knots.
I appreciated this article for a number of different reasons. One that caught me up front was the idea that people often feel the need to be busy to make themselves look important. That really puts a name on something I’ve witnessed. It’s like they’re playing a role instead of just settling down and being human. It seems as though they get an adrenaline rush out of being in an extended hyper state.
An interesting book I recently read by Daniel Gilbert called “Stumbling on Happiness” had some similar perspectives to this idea that we should just decide not to get all worked up about certain things. Gilbert said that we tend to overestimate the difficulty or uncomfortableness that something will be, but when it comes it’s not that bad. It’s just that we naturally raise our stress level to try to tackle it. Gilbert agrees that we unnecessarily stress over future events. He says that we’re trying to brace ourselves for the worst that could happen, and he says that “anticipating unpleasant events can minimize their impact.” Although there’s more to the equation than just that. He also says that we like to think we’re somewhat in control of our futures, and so we want to try to predict the possible outcomes.
Anyway, it’s ironic that those who are trying to control every little detail of what’s going on are actually being controlled by their habit, whereas those who slow down and take things as they come without getting all worked up are actually freer to be themselves. That’s the real control, but isn’t it interesting that it only comes through passiveness? One of the great paradoxes of life. The way to get a hold of your destiny is to loosen the reins more and go to free form.
Thanks for the article, Susan. These are good recharge reminders on getting back to basics and not making things tougher on ourselves than it needs to be.
What a brilliant comment, Rusty, I will have to get that book! Very well said.
You can see a couple of Gilbert’s videos at TED.com. Very fascinating psychological ideas he presents. That’s where I first heard about him.
another very well written stuff Susan
Hi Beautiful Being!
I always welcome and enjoy your newsletters; you are “right on”!
Blessings of pure light and love to you,
Thank your for all these wonderful articles…I was inclined to email them to myself and save them for my daughter (she’s only an infant now) but I must print them out! I need hard copies of this material in case they get lost in cyberspace…I feel like passing them out to all my loved ones in hopes that it resonates with them…but whether they choose to read or not is up to them – I’ve learned I cannot change others…only influence at most.